We often say we should help the weaker ones in our society. Yet how often do we actually really help them. Is providing with what they need truly helping them?? Although it does help them to pass the difficult time, it does not means it do good to every one that come across this help. These help often end up making them rely on others' help even more. It might end up making them feels more useless. Sometime I feel that we help others beside out of sympathy, we often do it so that it makes us feels better. We feel that we have the capabilities to help others. In the process, we end up making them feel that they worth little.

We often do not trust people who are weaker than us. Deep inside us we do have the prejudice that they will not be able to do so things that we are able to do. Hence we do not entrust things into their hands. When they volunteer to help, we often say it is okay we can handle it. To us it might be nothing, we feel that we do not need to burden them. To them it might be a big sign that we do not trust their ability. Often one with low self esteem will think very negatively and look at very small details. What in the end will means that they will start to isolate themselves as the little details made them felt they are not being accepted by others. By giving little things to do will make them feel that they are useful. Of course we are suppose to put it in a nice manner, most importantly give recognition to what ever things they had done (no matter how small it is). This will be a tedious and long process before we can see improvements but I believe it will be possible if we persist on.